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This is long. I will not reply. All is said, but a decent read if you |
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take the time. |
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On Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:18:58 +0200 |
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> You're saying that nobody really knows you, have you considered |
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> spending some time to reflect on how you present yourself on this |
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> mailing list and other communication channels? |
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Addressed below, out of order |
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> Maybe taking another |
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> few minutes writing an email can get your message across in a way |
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> that seems more constructive? Pure volume and repetition of issues |
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> surely doesn't benefit anyone, and quickly becomes boring. |
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What some perceive as volume; is simply me replying to replies to my |
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posts. I do not tend to reply when people are talking to others. I let |
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them have their conversation. Another mentioned that someone else |
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started a topic then seemed to lose interest. Seems you could be |
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accused of the same if not posting enough or stopping on a thread you |
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started. |
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If I said something to a group or individual in person. Then someone |
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replied. I would not ignore their reply. That is rude and |
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disrespectful.What others see as noise is me being polite and replying |
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to those who have replied to my post. It is not trying to get the last |
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word. It is simply being polite as I would in person. I would not walk |
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away mid discussion. Would you in person? |
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Think on that for a moment, and it should logically explain volumes of |
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mail. It also takes two to tango.... Not like I am sending repeat posts |
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that have no replies. talking to myself, etc. That would be spamming, |
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one way posting. Discussions are not spam. Though can annoy and be |
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unwanted for some. |
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Why email clients have a DELETE button, and also a nifty feature called |
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Filters. Do not like me. Filter any of my posts to trash. If you are |
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not doing that. They you prove my point further down. |
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That said, to address the first part; |
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Mailing lists are a HORRIBLE way to get to know someone. I would NEVER |
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assume anything about a another based on posts to a mailing list. Even |
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IRC and other things are not really that much better. I know better!!! |
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To get to know someone a person needs to take considerable time |
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interacting with them. Not a single person around here actually |
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interacts with me or works with me. It is not up to me for others to |
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get to know me. That is for them. |
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I work with other projects without any issues... Any issue I have is |
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unique to Gentoo and its rude and insulting, disrespectful community. |
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I purposely live and keep a private life for a reason. I do not do |
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social media etc. I have neighbors, who for years who made incorrect |
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assumptions. They could have approached and gotten to know me at any |
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time. When one did, they realized they were VERY wrong. They lived near |
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me for over a decade with incorrect assumptions. Horribly incorrect! |
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It is not my responsibility, nor do I need to spend my time, for |
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another to get to know me. That is their choice. Thus I do not need to |
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go out of my way to make myself known. |
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This same thing has happened at my local LUG. People made complete |
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incorrect assumptions causing a problem. When we met to resolve things |
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in person. Their first impression and comment was; Man did I get you |
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all wrong. I came here with one mindset. Soon as I saw you and we |
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greeted. It went out the window. That happens all the time. We never |
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discussed the problem. They realized they were wrong the second we |
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met... Problem went out the window.... They expected to meet one person |
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and another showed up... ME!!! Not who they thought I was... |
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Things in life are not always what they appear to be. People think I |
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drive others way. But in reality its the opposite. Recently in talking |
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in IRC others showed up in a dead channel. At my LUG my presence is |
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frequently requested. Though I rarely attend, in part due to a falling |
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out. Which the meeting previously mentioned mended. Though since I was |
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mistreated due to incorrect judgment in my own local community. It |
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changed my involvement and interest in that group. For their loss more |
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than mine. Same applies to Gentoo. These are lessons learned over time. |
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I do know I am a pot stirrer and that is a good thing. Even if cooking |
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all day in a crock pot. At some point things need to be stirred. That |
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is one thing that is accurately known and I acknowledge and embrace. |
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That said, I have met many gentoo devs in person. Sadly most of them |
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have moved on. Though some are still around. I have met Robbin/robbat2 |
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in person. Though it was years ago and I doubt he recalls my |
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personality much. He did not go down to San Jose and other things. |
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Though did go out to dinner with the Gentoo crew from LWE. Robbin and I |
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have VERY different personalities. I am not your typical Tech |
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personality type. |
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I represented Gentoo in person at the Gentoo booth, as an official |
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representative of the Gentoo Foundation, several times at LWE in San |
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Francisco. That was the largest event Gentoo has ever had a presence |
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at to my knowledge. Thousands of people. We would interact with Gentoo |
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related vendors like OpenGear who tooks us out drinking. I am really |
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good at such things. Because despite what people around here assume. I |
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have really good people skills. Dealing with people in person and |
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online is different. I am also NEVER approached in person as I am |
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online. |
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The things people say and how they act towards me in Gentoo. They would |
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never in person. That is part of it. People feel empowered in ways they |
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would not. Hiding behind a keyboard. Saying things to another's face is |
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quite different. Not meaning violence or anything. Just in actually |
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looking someone in the eye when your insulting them, disrespecting, |
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etc. Not to mention other people tend to react different when they see |
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such in person. |
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Now not to boost, but I was one of the funner ones of the LWE Gentoo |
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group. I was more outgoing, social, cracking jokes, and surprise |
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surprise talking etc. I talk even more in person than I type.... |
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Vapier/Spanky/Mike Frysinger and I got along really well. He is |
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hilarious and a really fun guy. You will never have an idea about that |
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guy either if you do not meet him. Him like myself comes off VERY |
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different via digital mediums, lists, etc. |
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Even those who harrassed me on the foundation lists and caused me to |
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resign as a trustee. I stayed the night at their place one night and |
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invited them to a relatives home in Northern California. Even then |
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ended up treating me in ways I would not then. Though again in person |
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next year at LWE. they would NOT come speak to me after what they did |
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to me.... They were embarrassed as I was walking and talking to another |
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Gentoo developer we both new and were friends with. |
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When I first showed up on -project making noise last fall. Vapier/Mike |
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sent me an email asking if I was going to go to SCALE. Which I replied |
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but my reply I think ended up in spam or junk folder he never got it. |
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Knowing that, I decided to not go to SCALE. I do not really feel close |
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enough to the Gentoo community as I did for LWE. |
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When I first went to LWE it was to meet my mentor, Josh Nichols, who |
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works for Github now days. It was due to the relationships built as |
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part of the Java team then. Times were very different. If Gentoo was |
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then like it is now. I would never have become a developer. The people |
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were nicer, more welcoming, etc. It is why Gentoo WAS one of, if not |
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the fastest growing FOSS project in its early days. |
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When people make assumptions about others based on posts to a mailing |
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list etc. It seems they may have a limited view of the world and lack |
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of world experience. The more you travel, learn other cultures, etc. |
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You learn not to assume about others. Cultures alone can be very |
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different. You also learn respect is a VERY big thing. In the US in my |
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area and others. Lack of showing respect can result in violence. In |
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business lack of respect can really be costly just the same. In Asian |
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cultures, respect is HUGE. |
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Not knowing me aside. My biggest gripe around Gentoo is how people |
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treat each other. How others approach me and the things they say I |
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would never. I do not go off instructing others how to conduct |
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themselves. Making assumptions about their knowledge etc and being |
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critical or flat out insulting. But all around interaction with people |
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you do not know. I would never approach someone I did not know the ways |
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I am approached. I see it happening to others so its not unique to me |
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at all. It is the present Gentoo culture, and horrible unfriendly |
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atmosphere around the community. One I have mostly been absent from. |
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It really blows my mind sometimes the comments people make. I |
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routinely think "Who does this person think they are". The nerve of |
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some people. To think they are so high and mighty to preach to another, |
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tell them how to conduct themselves, etc. |
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I live by the golden rule, and most all that has been done to me. I |
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would never to do to others. I would not stand for those things for |
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to be done to anyone. No on deserves such. Nor do I believe those doing |
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such things would feel the same if things were reversed. |
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C'est la vie.... |
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William L. Thomson Jr. |